The C.F.F of a Relationship

I just celebrated my 7th Dating Anniversary with my wife. Celebrations, erm, there isn’t any but I spend most of the day at work. I just thought there are too many important dates and have decided that I should just minimize it to 1, the ROM date. Actually, if I’m gonna be calculative and celebrate every important dates, then I will have dating anniversary, ROM, customary wedding and the list just goes on.

I still remember that for our 1st Dating Anniversary, we went to Long John Silvers at Novena Square. We sat at the exact same spot where we first date and the feeling was cool. It went on for the 2nd and 3rd year (if I remember correctly), but since, due to work commitments, we stopped that. And today, with 2 kids around, its rather difficult to spend time just between the 2 of us and what’s more, the Long John Silver outlet has shrunk in size and the seat that we used to take is no longer there.

7 years and still going strong and how do we manage that since we got married so young? Personally, I practice the principle of C.F.F, Complain, Forgive and Forget. Ever since day one, I always tell my wife that whenever she is not happy with me or I’m not happy with her, we should just sound the other party out – this is what I call complain. You can quarrel over it but most importantly, one party must give in and subsequently, both parties must be willing to forgive each other. And to live happily ever after, both should just forget about the entire episode and move on. While you might think that its an easy task, I thought its definitely a difficult one, especially the forgetting one.

As we grow and mature, what is most important is not celebrations but to enjoy and cherish the companionship that you have.