This is the question that I’ve been asking myself since I attended one wedding over the weekend? Is wedding dinner about how much we give or is wedding dinner about sharing the joy of the couple? Having been through the process, I always thought to myself that if my friends attend my wedding, regardless how much they give, I’ll just be as happy cause I just want them to share my joy. I’ll never ask who had given me how much, to the extent of writing down names, as long as you’ve reported yourself with the reception, you are welcome to enter the room for dinner.
Apparently, for the last wedding I attended, I was “forced” to have my name pen down on the ang bao. I was asked, “Did you write your name on the ang bao?” I said “No” So the receptionist told me, “Can you get a pen to write your name down pls?” I was like, “Huh?” It’s not that I did not have a considerable amount in it, but I thought, why should you force me? Alright, we reciprocate, how much you give it to me I will return you that same amount or if not, I’ll follow “market rate”. I stop to ask myself, is there such a need? Chinese has a saying, ζζ₯ζεΎ, but I thought it means if you attend my wedding dinner and I’ll attend yours and not how much you give me, I return it to you the next time you attend mine.
Anyway, to my friends out there who are reading this, you might have 2nd thoughts after reading this post, but trust me, if you know me well, you know how much I would have put. Nevertheless, I thought wedding dinners these days has somewhat commercialise.
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I guess no one will ever remember that the ang bao represents a token of blessings. Instead, it’s more like paying for the x-number course dinner with the couple entertaining you for about 3 hours. Penning your name on the packet is just to show that you gave your share of blessings. That’s all i guess..
Well, this practise starts from the “spoil market” people who give BIG ANG POW and wish to be known and thank for
that explains the “commercialize” practise.